Adunni Ade has opened up on the challenges she ’s
faced in raising two kids on her own.
The actress who covers Motherhood - Instyle with her
kids, opened up on experiencing depression and why
has didn ’ t marry her baby daddy .
Excerpts below;
Adunni Ade and her handsome sons , nine- year- old
D’ Marion and five - year- old Ayden , are the cover stars
for the latest issue of Motherhood In - Style Magazine .
On why she ’s not with the father of her children :
‘ Well , I just had to make that decision
though it took me a long time to realise
or stop lying to myself that it was never
going to work out even though I tried as
much as I could .
‘ I just decided that what’ s best for me is
to walk away and still be here and be
with my kids and still have the
opportunity of being the best mother
possible , so yeah , I had to make that
decision .
‘ It was really tough , it was really painful;
I think that hurt me the most out of
anything that I have ever been through in
my life , walking away was the hardest
thing to do . ’
On if they were ever married :
‘ Well , we were never married . We were
together for eight years but in the state
of Kentucky , it ’s a commonwealth state
and commonwealth state is if you live
together for a long period of time you
might as well be considered married but
on paper , no , never been married before . ’
On overcoming depression:
I think the major thing that got me
through was the fear that somebody else
would raise my children if I sat in that
relationship , that was the sca od loves
me enough to still keep me here .
Talking about depression and how she escaped suicide, she said ;
“ Suffering from depression as a result of
her troubled relationship , an emotional
Adunni talked about fear of losing her
life , leaving her kids and professional
intervention helped to get her through .
She says , “ I think the major thing that got
me through was the fear that somebody
else would raise my children if I sat in
that relationship , that was the scariest
thing for me , that my kids would see
somebody else as their mother .
Depression is no joke . A lot of people in
this country, Nigeria , don ’ t want to admit
that depression is an illness . People
don ’ t know the extent to which it affects
the mind .
“ Not a lot of people know this ; in the
past I have tried to commit suicide
because it was just too much , just too
much for me but I guess God loves me
enough to still keep me here. ”
On how she coped with moving back to Nigeria to live in this society as a single mum, the Nigerian-
American actress said,
“ Well , even before I moved back I
definitely didn’ t like placing myself in that
‘ single mother’ status . I ’ m a parent . Yes ,
it takes two to become a parent but hey ,
when it’ s one , let that one do the best
they can. Now , how I have been able to
cope in Nigeria? The same way I was
able to cope in the States , doing it all by
myself. I am truly happy that I
experienced certain things over there in
the States . If I had experienced those
things here in Nigeria, I probably would
have just killed myself long time ago
because this country is tough . But as
tough as this country and its people are ,
I ’ m also a tough cookie and I never give
up . If I set my mind to do something,
regardless of what it is , I will get it done.
The time for myself is gone, when you
have kids it ’s not about you anymore, it
becomes about the other lives that you
have brought into this world so my main
focus , my main goal is about my children
and they have been my drive and my
motivation from day one . ”👍👍👍💖
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